We’ve all been through some rough patches in life; it comes with the territory of life! There are those awesome loving support systems like our friends and family to guide us through tough times. They can be encouraging, helpful, and put our minds at ease during stressful times. However, there are also people who tend to say the wrong thing in those already sensitive moments. I would say most of the time, the person who says it means well and doesn’t know they’ve said something wrong. Here are three of the most common ones that I have found in my personal experiences.
3 Things Not to Say to Someone Going Through a Hardship
- This Too Shall Pass: This may feel like an encouraging reminder to the person saying it. However, I think it often makes the one going through the problem feel that their issue is being downplayed. When you’re the one in the situation, it can feel like an all-consuming problem effecting every aspect of life. They don’t want to be told to just endure it and that it will eventually pass.
- My cousin/Sister/boyfriend did “XYZ”: Don’t box their problem in with a similar problem you’ve encountered. What worked for your contact may not work or make sense for their problem. It will again make them feel that their problem is a one fix, easily answered issue. Sometimes the person just needs to be listened to and not a solution.
- Everything Happens For a Reason: Please oh please do not say this to someone going through a tough time! Maybe this is true, but it is NOT what someone wants to hear. This could make them feel angrier and almost as if you are saying their problem is meant to be. Instead, be a listening ear and offer advice when asked for it.
I hope that you found this helpful. I know it’s so hard to pinpoint what to say in tough situations. Being a listening and supportive ear goes a long way in my book!
What other things am I missing? Do you ever feel this way?
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