5 Things I’d Tell My Younger Self

This time of year is filled with graduations, weddings, showers, and all sorts of change. As I think back to graduating from high school and from college, there are things I wish I could have told my younger self. Today, I thought I’d share some of those things for anyone out there going through a time of change. 

  • Don’t rush through it: I was more than ready to graduate high school and even more ready to graduate college. Sometimes I wish that I had told myself to slow down and enjoy the phase of life I was in, rather than only be looking toward the ending. As I get older, I realize sometimes the best things happen when we stop and enjoy the now, taking in and learning from our current experiences.
  • Working full time will be just as tiring if not more tiring than being a student: I was surprised just how exhausted I was when I had to go from being a FT student to a FT worker. I had this idea that students were busy  24/7 and adults just went to work during the day and came home and did nothing else. I still struggle to find balance and often find it difficult to get everything I need to get done, while still having time to myself! 
  • Finding work is hard:  I worked two different jobs after graduation that were not within my field. All the while, I was job hunting within my field for 2 1/2 years. It was incredibly hard and frustrating, but now that I’m working within my field, it has been rewarding. To anyone in the same boat, keep looking and don’t give up. Don’t be afraid to take a job not within your field while still looking! 
  • Being on your own is a wake up call: I got married three weeks after my college graduation and was thrust in to the “Real world” very quickly. It was awesome to have my own place but it was eye opening to navigate life truly being 100% on your own. It is amazing and I wouldn’t trade it for anything, but in the beginning, it can seem daunting and scary. Take it one day at a time, talk to others, learn to budget, and enjoy your new freedoms! I learned so much the first year of being on my own as a person and as a couple.
  • It will be okay: It’s scary to not know what you’ll be doing. Especially when everyone is asking you what your plans are every time you interact with another human! Even in my 3 1/2 years being married, I’ve realized that things tend to work themselves out. I struggle to remember this at times, but I try to remain calm and tell myself that I can get through it. 

What do you wish you could tell your younger self? 

Tell me in the comments below!

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29 thoughts on “5 Things I’d Tell My Younger Self

  1. This is so great, Heather! I definitely agree about the real world being more work. My last semester I was working almost full time at my internship/what would be my FT job, plus working on 20 credits to graduate on time and planning a wedding.. you know, normal stuff 😉 I thought that once I got past the graduation it would be easier, but whatever you “drop” to save time or energy will always get filled by something else. So don’t rush just ot get to the next phase in life because it will be easier in your mind, you know?

    • Yes, so so true! I often think that if i just finish XYZ then everything will be easier…theres always something else that comes along though!

  2. All great tips! I would tell my younger self to trust the process because that’s where you’ll see the most self-growth, to not get discouraged with school and to not let stress get to me, and that comparison will bring me nothing but sadness and a lowered self-esteem.

  3. Love this! I tend to write these around my birthday – they’re always a great reminder to take you back to the base of what’s makes you happy.

    We have some similar thoughts, but you got married THREE WEEKS after graduation!? I have my wedding coming up next month and cannot imagine planning a wedding and completing finals. You go girl!

    • My birthday is next month…maybe thats why I was gravitating toward a post like this?! haha! Yes, I did and I took 18 credits my last semester! The wedding was what pushed me to finish well i think rather than slack off!

  4. All of those are great points that I would tell my younger self too. Especially when it comes to the job front. It took me awhile to get into the field I wanted to be in after college too (and a master’s degree). I probably would tell my younger self to choose a college degree that related to a job I would want. It is hard to make a decision about a career fresh out of high school and I think I would try to explore career options a little more so that I would have chosen a better major that would more easily translate into a job.

    • That’s a really good one! I wish I had done more exploring and more thinking about what kind of career i wanted rather than what was i interested in studying. I feel like those are two very different things and most high schoolers focus on what they like to study and not what job that they would want. I think in that way that our school system is a bit flawed!

  5. These are all great advice! I would agree with the real world not being as easy as it seems. I also really like the last one – everything will work out! Sometimes it just takes time. You don’t have to have it all figured out at once.

  6. I love this post! I think that if I looked back at my younger self, I would tell myself to be more confident in your self and don’t be so hard on yourself. I am a biggest critic and to this day, I still struggle with this. There are too many things and people in this world that will be hard on you, I don’t need to be adding to it! I also struggled to be confident in myself–I think a lot of that was because I hadn’t found myself yet.

    • That is a really good one, Amanda! I struggled and still struggle with this too. Why are we so mean to ourselves?! Thanks for sharing this!

  7. Love this, Heather! I would tell myself to stand up for myself when I really need to. I feel like I used to be way too lenient with people and let them walk all over me. Now, if I think something needs to be said, I just go for it…. in the nicest way possible of course. And yes. The job hunting is rough.

  8. unfortunately the only way to learn is to go through it. I now tell my college son what I wish I had done when I was his age and he doesn’t want to hear it. I guess he too will say someday these 5 things to himself just like I did.

  9. This is lovely, Heather. I’ve thought about this question before but always struggle to know what I’d say. I’d just try to tell myself to breathe… and love myself for who I am. Whether or not I would listen, who knows. But I’d want me to know that.

    • Good point, I’m not sure I would listen to an older me either! Breathing and loving myself more is definitely a good one!

    • That’s a good one, Edye! I still tell myself that on a daily basis! It’s so easy to try to rush through things!

  10. Being a little older, I try never to say, “the good ole days”. Because these are the good days happening right now. Whenever I heard an older person say that to me, I have to wonder if they are even trying to enjoy the present. So I try to live in the present and enjoy every day. Took me a long time to figure that out, hope you all enjoy the good new days!

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