Hello, everyone! Thank you for all of your well wishes the past few weeks. I’ve been living in a huge blur of exhaustion and excitement where hours blend in to days which blends in to weeks. Before Aubrey makes it to her first birthday, I wanted to get her birth story down. Not only to share my experience, but also to be able to look back on. Thanks for your patience as my blog takes more of a back seat while motherhood is front and center for a while!
Aubrey’s Birth Story
Wednesday June 14th
For weeks I had been having contractions but they would always eventually fizzle, get further apart, or less intense. I was always apprehensive that when the time came, I wouldn’t be sure when it was the real thing and therefore wouldn’t know the best time to head to the hospital. Turns out, I wouldn’t have to worry about that at all! After a really annoying and long work day on Wednesday June 14th, I came home to an also grumpy husband who had an equally annoying day. We decided to have a quick dinner and go to bed early.
I woke up around 1:45 am because I felt some crampy feelings. When I sat up slightly to go to the bathroom, I felt a slight trickle. I dashed out of bed and got to the bathroom quickly, where I felt more leaking as I stood up. I was 99.9% sure it was my water breaking, so I woke up Daniel and then called the doctor who told us to head to the hospital to confirm it was my water breaking. Daniel and I gathered the last of our stuff for the hospital and headed out the door around 2:30 am. What a surreal car ride! At that point I was feeling pain that felt like bad period cramps but nothing unbearable.
Let the Games Begin
Since it was so early in the morning, there was no traffic and we made it to the hospital in about 10 minutes. We checked in and they checked me and confirmed that yes indeed my water did break. I was having semi-painful contractions that felt like cramps but nothing super regular, so they gave me a pill that sometimes naturally helps to kick start labor. The nurse said that if this pill didn’t do the trick, that they would try some Pitocin in a few hours. I took the pill around 3:30 or 4am. Shortly after, the contractions began to intensify.
My plan was to go all natural if I could but I kept an opened mind and was willing to get an epidural if I ran out of energy completely. Because of this choice, the nurses only checked on me sporadically and kind of let me labor in peace as I had wished. I spent time on the exercise ball until the contractions got so intense that I could no longer sit down in that position. When the hospital shift change occurred around 7 am, the new nurse was fantastic about helping me to change positions to help with the ever-increasing intensity and pain of the contractions.
Someone Help Me
By 7:30 or 8, the pain was completely unbearable. Every contraction took over my entire body and I could barely breathe or get through each one. I told Daniel that I didn’t think I could do it any longer, especially if it was going to be several more hours of labor. In order to help with my final decision regarding the epidural, I asked the nurses to check on my dilation progress. If I was in this much pain and only progressed a few cm, I was probably going to have to get the epidural.
The nurse came in to check me and said “Oh you’re at 8 cm!” Then quickly paused, and said “Or maybe more like 6cm.” She also told me to let them know when I felt any urge to push.
Seconds later, I felt an intense pressure and knew in that second that I HAD to push. On top of the urge to push I felt her coming out and knew I needed the doctor. I demanded that the doctor and nurse come in and told them I needed to push and that I felt her coming out. Sure enough, in SECONDS time I went to 10 cm! My regular doctor was in a c-section, so a doctor who works at the hospital ended up coming in quickly to deliver. I’ve never been so relieved to see someone in my life. I’m pretty sure that if the hospital janitor came in and told me he knew how to deliver a baby I would have invited him to help me at that point.
In a quick frenzy the doctor and nurses came in to the room, ripped off the end of the bed, and helped get me in to position. During this time, my body was going through the “transition” time which happens from active labor to pushing. My body was shaking quite a bit but I also felt a few moments of complete calm which was a strange but necessary relief from the intensity of the active labor. After a minute or two of transition, I again felt the urge to push and was told by the doctor that I could push when I felt that I was ready.
The Grand Finale
I pushed for 10 minutes or less and then she was born! Pushing was quick but unbelievably painful. I ended up having to get an Episiotomy which I 100% felt and I think that was even more painful than her head coming out! That whole “Ring of fire” description of a baby’s head coming out? Totally accurate! Her cord was wrapped around her neck, so the doctor told me to stop pushing for a second so he could quickly clamp and cut the cord so it wasn’t around her neck. Once she came out, they gave her quick once over and a quick wipe down and placed her on my chest. I’ll never forget seeing her eyes opened and hearing her cry and feeling her on my chest. They stitched and cleaned me up while I had skin-to-skin and an hour later, I was off to the postpartum room for the next two days. Aubrey Grace was born at 8:24 am and weighed in at 5 lbs 5 ounces and was 19.5 inches long.
We spent two days in the hospital and all came home Saturday afternoon as a new family of three. I’m recovering well and we’ve been enjoying help and support from friends and family. Motherhood and life as a new parent has been more exhausting than I could have ever prepared for, but it has also been amazing and wonderful. I can’t wait to share more about motherhood and my new life in this busy and exciting season of life. Welcome to the world, Aubrey. We waited a long time for you and I couldn’t love you any more! I would go through all of that pain again if it meant I could meet you.<3
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