As I’ve mentioned many times throughout some of my posts, I definitely struggle with feelings of anxiety. During the darkest moments of my life, it often felt like I had lost control of everything; making my anxiety spike. Trouble sleeping, fatigue, mood swings, general lack of energy…you name it I had it! It’s amazing how much stress and being anxious can affect our health inside and out.
One of the major reasons I was struggling so much was because I was not okay with not being okay. I hid my anxieties and my feelings from everyone and struggled to keep up appearances. This of course was not helpful for anyone. It wasn’t healthy for me to hold it all in and it didn’t allow for anyone else to help me or to know how I was feeling. When I’m feeling the old feelings of anxiety sweep over me, here are some things I tell myself:
- Don’t Obsess: Don’t obsess over the when’s, the why’s, the how’s, and what-if’s. Take these scenarios that are playing over and over in your head, take a deep breath in, and let them go. Obsessing will not bring you any closer to the answer.
- Erase Your Timeline: When something doesn’t happen exactly when you thought it would, let it go. Don’t consider it a failure or yourself a failure. If you are truly doing the best that you can, that is all you can do. Don’t compare your timeline to another person’s timeline.
- Have Faith: I have heard it said that the opposite of fear is faith. Faith can be scary but it is necessary in overcoming anxiety. Faith is believing in the things we cannot see and allowing life to run its’ course. It may not be exactly how we think it will be, but it will be its’ own kind of beautiful.
If anyone out there is reading this feeling afraid, feeling anxious, feeling like a failure….know that you are not alone. Allow your loved ones to support you by being honest with yourself and how you’re feeling. It’s okay to not be okay; no one has it all figured out. We’re all in this together and we’re all trying to find our place. Breathe in. Breathe out. Let it all go. Life, after all, is its’ own beautiful mess.
Are you okay with not being okay? Do you hide your anxiety?
Tell me in the comments below!
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