Before I got pregnant, I used to think about pregnancy a very specific way. My belly would grow and I would love it day in and day out. Fast forward a few years and my time finally came. I have been overjoyed since the moment I found out I was pregnant. I prayed to be a mother and my prayers were answered. Today I’m not here to complain or list a set of reasons you should feel bad for someone who is pregnant. I’m here to share some of the unexpected feelings that I have been through and hope to encourage other women out there who may be in the same boat.
Body Image During Pregnancy
- So Many Changes: It’s quite obvious that pregnancy is filled with 40 weeks of non-stop body changes. How amazing to see God’s work first hand and learn more about the baby’s development. Throughout my time, I have felt so much joy that I sometimes can’t help but cry. I also have moments where I feel overwhelmed and that my body is no longer my own and that is quite overwhelming too. A deep breath and feeling the baby move and kick helps to reassure myself that all is well.
- It’s hard not to feel the pressure: No matter how much of a positive spin I place on my experiences, there will always be tons of pressure to look a certain way during pregnancy and a certain way immediately after. I’ve made the decision to stop reading any articles that seem to put an unnecessary amount of pressure on mothers to “bounce back” after birth. It is taking 40 weeks to make this baby, and I will not place a time limit on the after stages.
- Weight & Physical Appearance: I’ve never received so many comments regarding the way I look and my weight in my life. I’ve had people tell me that I look like I’m going to give birth any day and I’ve had people ask me if I’m eating enough for my child because I look too small. Both have had an impact on me and both have been hard to swallow.
- Unwanted Comments : Along with my thought above, people always talk. Everyone suddenly has something to say about every single thing. For someone who has lots of anxiety, this has been a real challenge.
- A Daily Reminder is necessary: Throughout my journey so far, I have been reminding myself daily that I can do this. Every day is not going to be perfect and easy. People may hurt my feelings or make me angry or anxious and there’s nothing I can do to stop those. I will remind myself that I am doing the best that I can.
So, thank you to everyone who has been supportive and loving especially on my pregnancy related posts. It has helped me through some of the tougher moments and feelings during this amazing journey so far.
What I’ve Taken From This:
- The Changes are evident and boy, they are quick. From this I have learned to slow down and soak in each day because tomorrow will not be the same.
- It’s easy to succumb to the pressures from others and hard when hearing and reading unnecessarily negative things regarding mothers. From this I’ve learned to lean on my support system and I feel even closer to my loved ones now.
- The opinions will never stop coming but I can choose to not listen to them. Hurtful or judgmental words may come out of someone’s mouth but I have learned patience and grace through those experiences.
- Finally, and most important of all I know with my whole being that this will all be worth it. No matter the aches and pains, the hurtful words, or the unwanted judgement. When I feel my baby girl kick and move I know that she is worth more than anything else I could have ever asked for or wanted. She already brings me joy that I didn’t know that I could feel.
How do you remind yourself that you are enough? How do you learn from tough experiences?
Tell me in the comments below!