When Life Hands You Lemons, Throw Them Out the Window

When Life Hands You Lemons, Throw Them Out the Window

Guys, I’m having a tough time. I try to keep things pretty light and honest around here. Often I try to spin things positively and share what good has come out of a situation. Lately, I’m just not feeling positive. Over the past two months, I’ve had a lot of rejection and doors closed. Rejection in almost everything freelance/blogging related. I want so much to be able to have a more flexible schedule and be doing something I love and feel really passionate about. I’ve pursued so many freelance opportunities with blogging and writing in general and have just gotten the door slammed shut over and over and over again. If I’m being completely honest, I want nothing more than to be my own boss, work for myself when I am able, and have more flexibility with being a mama.

When Life Hands You Lemons

As the old saying goes, when life hands you lemons, you should make lemonade out of them. I agree wholeheartedly that we should make the best out of situations. But, it’s so hard when you’re just feeling completely helpless and stuck. So often I hear people trying to be inspiring telling me that nothing is forever and if I don’t like something then I should work to change it. Well, I am now going on two years of trying to work to fix it and have had so many disappointments that I am just feeling completely discouraged.

Throw Them Out the Window

So, for now I am sitting here feeling really angry, irritated, and sad about my current situation. Feeling chained and underpaid to work that I don’t love and kind of just feeling defeated. I appreciate you coming by and reading my words. Hopefully someday I can have the flexibility I desire for my family. Until then, this space will continue to be a creative outlet and a joy to maintain and I will continue to pursue opportunities as they come.

No Questions for you today. 

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14 thoughts on “When Life Hands You Lemons, Throw Them Out the Window

  1. THANK YOU for being so real. I know that this time you’re going through is really tough, and it’s okay to feel that and get angry and upset. When it comes down to it, I see you as someone who is so devoted to her family and passions. But I also think God probably has something even greater in store for you. Something that will fulfill you and allow you to spend time with your sweet baby girl. Something you can’t even imagine how great it is yet. Doesn’t make waiting for it easy though. My prayers and well wishes are with you as you fight through this slump! You are so awesome and I hope things turn around quickly!

  2. I love this realness. THIS is what the blogging world needs more of. Frustration is normal and valid. And it’s okay to feel this way!! This too shall pass.. sending you so much LOVE.

  3. Ugh. Oh Heather. Although I know it doesn’t always help to hear this…. I know how you feel. I’m in an industry that is all about constantly putting myself out there, applying, submitting and 9.5 times out of 10 not having anything come of it. But if this is what we want…. then there is no alternative. I feel like we just have to keep striving for it, while finding a way to make ends meet in the mean time. Because that’s what we were put on this earth for. If we spend our entire lives striving for our dream, then at least we’ve spent it aligned with what we want.

    I’m sure you have, but have you reached out to other writers/bloggers about how they got their start? For any words of wisdom/empathy/understanding they can offer?

    Thinking of you – and keep plugging. Keep, keep plugging.

    • You’re right! I think with anything creative and personal it’s very hard because you put so much of your self out there. Just makes rejection even more frustrating.
      I’ve done a bunch of webinars, listened to podcasts, talked with other bloggers, read some books, and put in to practice the things I learned from all of those things. Just haven’t seen any profit from any of it so far.

      Thanks for the encouragement!

  4. Girl, I feel ya. I wish I could just give you a big hug right now. This is how I felt almost daily at my last job. I felt overworked, underpaid, exhausted, longing for more, wanting more flexibility and control of my life and I knew it was time for a change. I applied and applied and applied some more. Trust me, I got rejected 95% of the time, but it only takes one opportunity to change everything. Here I am a few months later and I am happier than I have ever been in a job. I have the control and freedom and flexibility I was looking for. It is out there. I know it gets discouraging, especially after being rejected, but just keep pushing through and you will get to where you want to be. If you keep trying, it will happen, just maybe not as quickly as you had hoped. Thanks for sharing your honesty feelings today. The world needs more people like you who don’t sugarcoat everything. Thinking of you. xoxoxo

    • Thank you, Taylor! 🙂 You’re right, that waiting for that one opportunity is so challenging. Thanks for the encouragement!

  5. Thank you for sharing this! Rejection is the absolute worst. I had two writing rejections over the last couple of weeks and I am the worst about taking them personally. I think it’s hard because writing just is so personal. I really love your blog and your writing and I hope you find the perfect opportunity soon! Thinking of you!

    • Yes, you’re so right about writing being so personal. I think for me, the most challenging part has been the feeling of being stuck. I didn’t think that two years later, I’d still be feeling stuck and still at my current job where I’m over-qualified and underpaid…it stinks! Thank you for the encouragement! I’m sorry to hear you’re also facing some rejection; it’s so tough! Hope that things look up for both of us soon!

  6. Oh, Heather, I have been (still am, kinda) in your situation and, yes, it sucks.
    I’m learning that it’s ok to acknowledge and accept our sadness, grief, anger, frustration because those things are a freaking part of life and if we deny them, we end up hurting ourselves in the long term.
    So, girl, take some time to throw those lemons FAR. And after you’ve felt your feelings, you’ll know what to do. Hugs. Being a mom is hard. Working a job where you’re not appreciated, valued or paid what you’re worth *really* sucks. But you’ll make it. ❤️

    • Isn’t it the worst?! Ugh! Thank you for the encouragement, although I wish no one would have to be in this boat, it’s nice to know I’m not alone. Thank you! <3

  7. I’m so sorry, Heather. You are such a hard worker, it’s actually hard to believe that this door keeps shutting. Thank you for sharing so honestly with us. I bet one day you’ll look back at this post and see where this road was taking you even though you couldn’t see it! I’ll be praying for you, momma! You are doing amazing. XO

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