Looking Up

Looking Up

As a blogger, I know and understand the importance of being active and present on social media pages. I personally love seeing other people’s pictures, hearing about their lives, and learning new things. However, I think it can be really hard to find balance between enjoying social media and obsessing over social media.

Too often I pick up my phone and scroll mindlessly through Instagram or Facebook when I could be reading, spending time with Daniel, or a whole list of other things. Bloggers, how do you find balance between blog work/personal enjoyment/time away from the screen? 

How many times have we said or heard that we shouldn’t compare our lives to someone else’s “highlight reel”? I know very well that the photos, moments, & announcements on social media are often the best moments that people want to share.

No one writes a status about how they woke up, went to work, had a lunch break, came home, made dinner, watched TV, and went to bed. So, why do I still compare and worry when I’m not at a certain place in life but someone else my age is?

As I’ve mentioned in The Waiting Game, I struggle with feelings of anxiety and nervousness over the unknowns. I very much believe that social media plays a large part in some of this anxiety and worry. I don’t believe that me going off all social media platforms would be the answer, especially as a blogger, but I do think less may be more. 

  • Less Comparing….More enjoying my own phase of life
  • Less Worrying….Allowing life to fall in to place
  • Less Jealousy…..More celebrating with others
  • Less Anxiety….More acceptance of my current situation
  • Less screen time…More face to face time

It’s hard to accept that things will happen when it’s time. Sometimes we don’t have an exact answer when we want it and sometimes the answer itself may not be the one we want to hear. 

I’m going to do my very best to enjoy the right now and to remember that what I’m seeing online is not always the full picture…in fact, it’s never the full picture. So, let’s all work on putting down the phone and enjoying the present. Don’t forget to look up every once in a while. It’s a beautiful world we live in. 

How do you balance blogging and social media? Are you addicted to your phone & Social media? 

Tell me in the  comments below! 

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23 thoughts on “Looking Up

  1. This is definitely a topic I relate to. I spend way too much time on social media mindlessly scrolling. Everyone always talks about how we shouldn’t compare our lives to others, but social media makes that extremely hard to do. But you are right… most posts are the best/most exiting part of someone’s day so it is easy to think someone has “the best life” when you are only seeing the highlights of it. Great post!

  2. Balance is SUCH A HARD THING! haha I’ve tried to have periods of time where I just don’t have my phone on my. I’ll go for a walk with my husband or something where I can just leave my phone at home and not look at all the notifications. But it’s definitely not an easy thing to balance!

  3. YES! I actually wrote a similar post on Instagram last week about the “comparison game.” It’s SO difficult not to compare ourselves to the social media versions of one another – especially when it’s our job.

    The only two things that I’ve been able to figure out (and I definitely don’t have it completely “figured out”) are to:
    1) Follow only those on Instagram that truthfully INSPIRE me. I sometimes go on an unfollow spree if there are certain people I’m following just because I’m “supposed” to or only because they have a large following.
    2) Create “off” hours. Especially going full time blogging, I very much struggle with stopping work throughout the day. There are certain days that I’ll allow myself to do whatever it is that I feel I need to do at specific times (ex. I woke at 3am this morning and realized I had to edit my Summer Giveaway that’s on the blog today, and I did so because it’s early in the week), but I’ll keep work 100% off limits at certain times, too. (i.e. Don’t bother to message me on Saturday mornings, ha!)

    Let us know if you come up with any other tips along the way!
    XO, Jessica

    • That’s a great point about following who inspires you. Who needs all of that negativity! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  4. It’s SO hard to find this balance. I struggle with it everyday. I think planning is so important, like taking some time on a Sunday to plan your social media posts, so you can enjoy the days/nights for the next week. I’m still learning about balancing all of this because it takes a lot of time and the comparison game is harsh!

  5. I completely agree with everything you said in this post! It is so hard to stop comparing yourself to others on social media. Even though I know I shouldn’t and I don’t know what the rest of their life is like, it’s still hard. I agree with the comment of unfollowing people that don’t inspire you. I am still trying to figure out a balance, and that’s something that I am totally failing at! I like the idea of planning and scheduling posts, and some weeks that works, and others it doesn’t. I think it’s a learning process and hopefully one of these days we’ll figure it out! And back to the comparing – I think you just really have to keep telling yourself that everyone is at different stages of their lives, and even if they are further along, it may not have been what they wanted, or they may have hardships that we don’t know about, or it’s just not our time yet. I’m totally with you on this because I am soooo ready for kids and I see everyone’s posts about their kids and it’s hard for me to not think about the fact that those people are younger than me or that I should have that too. It’s a struggle, but I just have to tell myself that when the time is right for me, it will happen. I hope you can find some balance and find a way to stop worrying about the unknown. I really try hard to not worry and just trust that God will make thing happen when He’s ready for it to!

    • I try to trust the same but sometimes it’s really really hard! Especially when you want something you can’t have yet or you feel like nothing is coming together like you thought. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  6. I definitely know what you mean. I don’t know if i’m addicted, but I definitely spend way too much time with social media. It’s almost like a bad habit– if I’m not doing something, I have to pick up my phone and scroll through Instagram (where there’s usually nothing new from the last time I looked) instead of just being present in the moment. Like you, it also doesn’t help me relax because I can’t help myself from comparing my life to everyone else’s “highlight reel.” Social media definitely has its advantages, but sometimes I wonder what life would be like without it, you know?

  7. Girl. YEEESSS. I struggle with this biiigg time. It’s hard not to! With social media, it’s so hard to grasp the fact that people obviously don’t post boring things or things that are uninteresting. I feel this a lot when I see people who have kids the same age as me doing ALL THE FUN THINGS and I’m like.. oops, and I supposed to be doing that? It can be overwhelming at times and definitely can make you feel bad about yourself, but you kind of have to just brush it off and remember that their life is not funtime America 24/7.

    • Yep! It’s hard to remember that when you’re seeing it and youre like UGH SHOULD I BE DOING THAT?! Gotta stop and take a breather haha!

  8. Ugh this is really, really hard. I find myself in and out of phases where I realize I’m spending way too much time with my blog/online. Its tricky because I authentically LOVE my blog and all of you guys, but I get this pretty gross feeling in my stomach when I know I am spending way too much time online and forgetting that there is actually a “real” life there in front of me – with real people and my family – that I am seemingly ignoring. As great as online friends and support are, I fear that we as a society are forgetting about the real world around us and forgetting about the support we can get from real people as well. I’m really just trying to be conscious of when I really WANT to be online and when I don’t. When I don’t really want to be, or feel the need for a break, I’m working harder at actually letting myself take a few days/a week off without any guilt or anxiety.
    And the phone – I’m finding being at home and just “forgetting” my phone upstairs in the evening has helped me to be unplugged to I can focus on my family at dinner and at the TV.
    <3 to you.

    • Thanks Cora! I think I need to do a lot more “forgetting” to leave my phone in the other room when I want quality time with friends, family, and Daniel!

  9. I can totally relate to this on many levels. I’m a senior in high school and have so much work to be done. Sometimes when I should be studying I’m checking emails instead. The past few months I’ve tried to become more aware of how much “screen time” I have each day. I like to take a break from technology even for just an hour or two and read a book, crochet, or talk with a loved one 🙂

    Edye |Http://gracefulcoffee.wordpress.com

    • Yeah, I’m with you on that one! I really need to get back in to reading. Instead of reading, I’m doing tons of random scrolling–not good!

  10. Gosh this is SUCH a hard topic for me. I almost hate social media (even though I also love it). I feel like I always need to be ON to get the word out on my latest post, or reconnect with family. But then it takes time away from the here and now with my son. Such a delicate balance.

    • I agree–I wish it wasnt so important as a blogger. It’s really hard to not obsess and spend so much time on it!

  11. I love everything about this post (sorry I’m late to comment haha). I wouldn’t consider myself addicted, per say, because I would love to lose my phone and never have to deal with it again, but I do find myself constantly scrolling and looking for updates. I’m new to the blogging world, but have been following them for years. It’s hard to try and not compare myself to other successful bloggers. I’m still trying to figure out how to gain a following, and therefore am posting nearly everyday which takes up so much time!

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