The Waiting Game

I am a super planner. I love to make goals, check things off my to-do lists, and make plans for the future. Heck, I even plan out my meals and workouts day by day every single week! I believe it’s a good quality to have and I know that I am really organized and save time and money by doing these things. As a planner and a worrier, I feel much better when I map things out in advance.

I recently saw this floating around the internet and it really struck a cord with me:

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I am often waiting anxiously for the next phase of life to begin.Waiting to finish school, waiting to get married, waiting to have kids, waiting to buy a house, etc. The truth is, it’s impossible to know exactly what’s going to happen and exactly when something is going to happen. The unknowns really scare me, they make me nervous, and yes, they keep me up at night sometimes. But guess what? I have a really great life. I’m married to my best friend in the whole world and I get to share life with him.

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I don’t know when exactly we will have kids, I don’t know where exactly we will be and where we will go, and I am starting to feel okay with that. It can be really hard for me to block out what other people are doing or saying and I often put way too much pressure on myself.

I’m going to challenge myself to revel in each day; take-out dinners with Daniel, a long hot shower with no interruptions, going to bed early or staying up late on my own accord, when my niece smiles at me and gives me a kiss. I will enjoy life’s small but amazing moments and not anxiously wait on the sidelines for “XYZ” to happen. I’ll make my best effort to be happy for other people without comparing myself to them and their situations.

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I’m scared. This is not an easy task for me. But guess what? We have this one life to live so I’m going to enjoy it. I’m going to breathe deep and jump out of my comfort zone; and I challenge any other planners and worriers out there to do the same! After I blocked out other people’s expectations for my life I’ve realized one really awesome thing: I am content!

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Content. Happy. Blessed. Loved. Perhaps you might feel the same if you took time to reflect on your own life without hearing everyone else. I encourage you to block out the noise from everyone else and reflect quietly on your own. You might be surprised.

How do you stay content? Are you a planner? How do you deal with the unknowns of life?

Tell me in the comments below!

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27 thoughts on “The Waiting Game

  1. Such a great topic, Heather. I am definitely a huge planner and worrier and that can get in the way of life sometimes. I am definitely guilty of always looking forward to the next thing in life to happen.. probably because I feel outside pressure. This year I have really tried to live more in the moment and appreciate every day, every minute I have been given. After our close friend died this year, it really made me realize just how precious life is and how we are not guaranteed tomorrow. Life is so much more enjoyable when we live in the NOW versus waiting for the future.

  2. Oh, Heather, this is amazing. It’s SO hard to accept that life is going to happen regardless of your plans. When I first started blogging I wrote a post about how when I was in HS my teacher assigned us to create a timeline of our future and present it. We all went all out and took it super seriously. I was going to graduate, move to the city, become a high-powered PR exec, get married at 27, baby number 1 3 years later and number 2 at 32. HA! When everyone finished presenting, my teacher told us we had all done the assignment wrong. He explained that you’ll get married when you find the person you want to marry. You’ll work where you can find enjoyment. You’ll have a child if and when you get pregnant. Etc etc. We can’t plan out our lives, try as we might. We can just enjoy them and live in the moment.

    • Thanks, Morgan! That’s a great assignment. I wish I had heard that stuff more often growing up. Instead I feel like I romanticized how everything would work out perfectly the way i wanted it to! But, cheers to going with the flow!

  3. I feel you, girl – I am SUCH a planner… and am marrying someone that loves to be spontaneous. If it helps you out with your goal at all, knowing myself, I knew that I could not just cancel out all planning. The problem with me being a planner is that when something thwarts my plans, I get all crazy!

    Instead, I kind of plan intentional “spontaneous time.” I.E. We’re pretty good at planning the milestone (ex. go to mom’s for Christmas), but I know that we’re okay to relax and just enjoy the time there because we don’t have the mini-milestones to hit.

    …but this has also helped me to relax a lot with those big milestones, too. We’re planning our wedding outside, but heck, if it’s raining, then it’s raining and that’s how it’s supposed to be. When we moved to Denver, I thought we found the perfect place. But moving in, it’s across from the homeless shelter. Not ideal at first, but we love the supportive community so much that we just signed for another year. I’m okay that those milestones haven’t gone exactly as planned.

    Essentially, I’m saying that I didn’t go cold turkey on this one because it was too difficult for me, but it’s helped a lot in the long run. Good luck with your awesome goal. 🙂

    • This is a great idea! I should try that technique too when it’s really getting difficult. The mini-milestones would still help me to keep less anxious about everything!

  4. “If you want to make God laugh… tell her your plans.”
    This has become my favorite quote as of late. I am also a huge planner – I find joy in it – but it has also lead me to not being in the moment, not taking in the joys that I am currently living in, and rather just worrying and thinking of the “perfection” to come in the future. Perfection…ya… never happens. Things never happen as you plan them. But I firmly believe if we live in the moment and take things as they come, and do what we want for ourselves at the present time, whatever comes in the future will be far better than anything we planned.
    I 200% support you in this challenge for yourself. And if you don’t mind, I am going to join you. Thank you for the reminder <3

    • That’s a great quote, ive never heard that one. So true! Thanks for the support, Cora! Let me know how it goes for you too!

  5. Love this and I’m soooo on the same page with you. I’ve been thinking about this a ton this week. Especially when it comes to motherhood. I need to enjoy the here and now more. It’s so important to just stop and LIVE!

  6. I am sorry you have been anxious about your life. I think you are doing a great job! if that helps. I think we all go in and out of anxious times. I agree living in the moment is important. I always thought I wasn’t waiting for the future to come. Some people my age look back and say “the good old days” this and that. I always thought these are the good new days. Good old memories. Happy times now and a bright new tomorrow to come. We can plan for the simple things and then let God take care of our future. Very thought provoking!

  7. I love this! It really made me think too. I’m such a planner and I always worry about the future…things like when we’ll have kids or about our jobs….and I stress over it. This was a great reminder to quit doing that and just enjoy right now!

  8. Wow. I can totally relate to this, Heather! I’m a senior in high school and am looking ahead to college then my career, etc. I get so caught up in the future I forget to live in the present and remember God has me right where he wants me to be 🙂 I love the song “The Waiting” by Jamie Grace. Such a good song for when you’re in the “waiting game.”

    Blessings,
    Edye | http://gracefulcoffee.wordpress.com

  9. Great post, heather. I definitely have been here before. I especially felt like this before my marriage. I don’t know why, but last year I started to realize how quickly time was passing by. I pray that God helps me to live every minute of everyday so I won’t see it see it as waiting. Thank you for sharing your heart!

    • Thanks, Kate! I often pray the same…its sometimes so hard! I’m working on it each day though 🙂 Thanks for reading!

  10. It’s so important to be present in the everyday! Having children is an amazing thing…but so is just getting to be married to your best friend! 🙂 I don’t even remember what the days were like when we could have regular uninterrupted conversations or stayed up past 11 PM…LOL! Enjoy this season and the next will come in it’s time…with all it’s joys and wonders (and naps and beautiful interruptions)! 🙂 <3

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